Wednesday 25 July 2018

Who is Asmi

Some of you have read a bit about me here and there. Others have asked me questions. Some others have given me enough attention and have tried to read my work, my posts and figure out a bit about me. So, I have finally decided to come out to an extent and write this short post. I will try and answer some of the common questions that readers and acquaintances or or new BDSM enthusiasts tend to ask me.

1. Am I a woman?

Yes, I am a biological woman, who is very happy to identify as one. In that sense I am not queer. That said, I have experimented with my bisexuality, so technically that makes me queer. My preference is for my heterosexuality and I am naturally attracted to men. That said, if I do meet very interesting women, women who are capable and experienced Dominants in their behaviour, practice and meet all other parameters emotionally, intellectually, ethically, socially etc. I may consider them as potential partners.

2. Am I single?

Yes, I have never been married. I am a polyamorous person and I identify as what is commonly called as solo-poly. Which means an individual who does not practice polyamory as a couple, but as an independent individual. This means that at a given point, I may or may not have a partner with whom I am romantically attached.

3. Am I looking?

At this moment, I am not actively looking. I am happy to meet people and if I really like someone, I am not shy in telling them. However, like every one else, I am also selective about who I share my intimacy, emotional and sexual energy with. At this moment, my work, my projects and my writing take a priority. This priority is superseded by only my health or my immediate family.

That said, I am not close to the idea of a mature person and their companionship, where I feel that both of us will be able to support each other’s growth as individuals and partners.

4. Am I a professional Dominatrix or a professional Submissive?

No. My bills are paid through very mainstream writing. I write business content for corporate houses, NGOs, CXOs and marketing / digital agencies. I also help startups with content and communications strategy. Due to my previous work experience in operations, I sometimes do consult smaller businesses or coach individuals on how to streamline their business or professional performance.

I do coach people on the deeper aspects of BDSM on the side, where I accept students / mentees extremely selectively. I do charge for my time, but the objective is simply to make trainees take the curriculum seriously, because I take a lot of time to structure personalized, customized courses.

5.  Do I meet people?

Yes, very happily. I am generally very happy to meet new people and see what value can we drive in the world together. I meet people through all sorts of online and offline platforms. That said, I do respect some social and ethical boundaries that I have designed for myself over 12 years of social and intimate interactions with people. Like all of you, I do not like drama in my life and so I do tend to block a lot of people too. It doesn’t make me very happy but I do it when required.

6. Am I a bitch / slut / whore / yada yada?

The fact that I wrote this question here and chose not to dignify it with an answer, is response enough 😊

Happy reading and do share your thoughts,

© Asmi Uniqus 2018


  1. hello, it was lovely to see this :) it's been years and meeting you really enriched my life when it happened. Glad to see you becoming clearer about who you are! Also this blog is amazing and i love the content.

    1. Hello Angad,

      Saw this pretty late. Life's been moving super fast so didn't realize how long its been.

  2. This is one of the most sorted answers I have ever read to the eternal question who am I!


  3. Very few people probably Madonna or JLo come close to your views in asserting a non conformist identity....
    You do it really well, almost like a life coach or Saint shall I say...
    If words have value, you are a truly blessed person... Regards

  4. Glad to be hear interestingly I like listening to others and people from diverse backgrounds as well. Born and schooling in Varanasi kept me grounded yet the wandering tourists in the narrow lanes made me wonder what on earth they are here for . Turned out I grew up with same enthusiasm in my approach. Started my own business with shoestring budget after working with mnc's and a health situation robbing me of my biggest break.frankly speaking I am sure you would like to hear my story as well . I am in East India right now but I will be in Delhi in may . Coffee

  5. Dear asmi .... What u hv written shows the clarity of ur thoughts and concepts. It was an engrossing read...i am so glad to find a person like u...thx and regards

  6. Hi Asmi first off I would like to wish you a very happy birthday. I was pleasantly surprised to find out that you had accepted my friend request. I hope we can get along well as our views are similar.thanks and take care.regards.