Thursday, 20 April 2017

It's NOT OK to ping a BDSM Practitioner's friends on facebook

So recently, someone followed me to my blog through my tinder profile and then they reached my facebook profile. So far, so good. They pinged me, trying to tell me how they are a GREAT REAL NO LIMITS master. When politely told off that there's nothing like no limits, they choose to ping every woman on my profile and ask them if they are a BDSM submissive.

It is NOT OK. It is called desperate behavior.

  • BDSM is NOT an excuse for harassing people and their friends.
  • BDSM is NOT an excuse for stalking women.
  • BDSM practitioners are NOT necessarily easy lays.
  • Women who practice BDSM are not necessarily cheap, easy, desperate or interested.
  • Women who say a no, do NOT mean a yes.
Here's one screenshot. If other friends provide more, I'm going to name and shame this person more. Because high time people understand that BDSM practitioners are not freaks, we are different and we DO NOT endorse jerk behavior.



© Asmi Uniqus 2017

11 comments:

  1. This is the problem with a cheap section of our society, it's exploitive rather being bit understanding

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    1. I wouldn't call an entire section of people cheap. I think, it's more about how people don't act maturely.

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  2. Yeah, sanctity of other's privacy should be followed

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    1. Thank you for voicing out your thoughts.

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  3. Most people in India are not mature.. A mention of being open for relationship can make them act nuts. And tndr is a rubbish platform.. 99.9% of people on tndr are creeps.. more so when you mention about sxual things.. no senses only.. just ignore such people.

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    1. Nitin, I feel that ignoring is one of the ways of encouraging these people.

      At the same time, I think all of us need to go deeper and dig into why people behave like this? Why are we so sex-starved as a collective? Is there something that's causing communication breakdown in the sex and spaces related to sexuality ? Is there something some of us can do in order to increase and encourage discussions so that this sort of desperate acts can be reduced?

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  4. Asmi, I agree ignoring might be encouraging, but stooping to such people's low is also a task. But yeah someone has to, otherwise these people would go wild.
    you are correct. people are sex starved plus don't understand the that without consent there is nothing; from both sides. It's all about the mindset. We can try to make them understand. but I suspect most of them don't understand it only. It's there in there core.

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  5. This to the land of Kama Sutra! If we dig back to ancient times, sexuality was something which was very thoroughly explored among people in India. Inspite of that Indians act like sex starved, all this started at the time of Mugals when our society started adopting parda system with an emerging Muslim empire, as a lot of women were picked up, raped and left by these foreigners. So, our society went on to become a reserved one, which is actually prevalent in current society too, hence, people have more sex cravings! More rapes and molestation cases.. by the way! Asmi, I also followed you from Tinder ;-)

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  6. Surprising that you do not mention the hypocrisy brought in by the Victorian Era which was made to sink into us so deep that we lost our entire sense of identity, even though you do mention invaders before them.

    Also, personally I believe in action and not blame games. Sure Mughals did what they had to, Brits did what they had to. ARE WE DOING WHAT WE HAVE TO ? I am doing my bit and that's all I'm bothered about :)

    I don't have a problem with people following me from anywhere, but I do have a problem when they can't grow up and let my friends be.

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    1. Well, blame is not the game I am in for.., :) but just tried to touch those chapters of history which lead to this hypocritical environment. Brits came much later anyway and I believe there part play was more in terms of bringing in diplomatic hypocracy in our society.

      Moreover, my intentions of following someone is just out of curiosity for that subject matter, or maybe for an interest which lay in some hidden corner of my mind.

      Anyway, cheers! to whatever part you are playing :-)

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  7. Individuals, observe being detached, experience , learn, awareness, progress

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